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Betrayal In It Ends With Us By Colleen Hoover

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The feeling of betrayal can destroy one's trust forever. In this novel, Colleen Hoover descriptively and honestly writes how an abusive relationship truly is. This novel shows how manipulation and abuse can quickly be fallen into. The story follows a girl named Lily Bloom, who meets a boy named Ryle Kincaid. Lily falls in love with Ryle, and Ryle falls in love with the control of Lily. Lily's childhood was traumatic, as her father abused her mother, which has much to do with her staying in an abusive relationship. Lily and Ryle get married, and soon to follow, Ryle begins to regularly abuse Lily out of jealousy, anger, sadness, and his problems. When Lily loses hope and trust, she turns to her past boyfriend, Atlas Corrigan. Atlas was a boy …show more content…

In It Ends With Us, Lily saw her mother as a "dumb woman" for staying with her abusive father. Lily goes through abuse and realizes her mother was not dumb and that it is effortless to fall into abuse. Lily's mother also saw herself this way; she thought nobody would believe her because her husband was a powerful man with significant money. Lily also faces this problem with Ryle being a neurosurgeon and having a good name. This frightens them into staying quiet; Even at the end, Lily never opens up about her experience with an abusive relationship because Ryle says he's powerful and can make her look like a liar. To continue another perception of gender criticism is how Lily is saved by Atlas when Ryle is abusing her. This part of the book could potentially confuse some of the readers. Lily stays at Atlas's house when she feels unsafe with Ryle; Lily gets Atlas to take her to the hospital when she needs stitches, and Atlas gives Lily his number to make her feel safer. This is not an immoral act. However, this can be perceived as Lily needing to be saved by a man. However, this is not true; a man never saved Lily's mother, and Lily did not need saving by Atlas. As someone who has been through abuse, Lily decided to leave on her own, although it can be seen as Atlas having something to do with it; he did not save her. Lily made this decision by looking back at her parents' relationship, how she ended up in an abusive relationship, and wanting what was best for her

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