Definition Of Love

According to Hooks, “ to return to love, to get the love we always wanted but never had, to have the love we want but are not prepared to give”. We seek romantic relationship, no matter the pain, sorrow, alienation, emptiness, romantic love will be ours.” Hooks defines love as; we lack the choice and decision when choosing a partner, because when chemistry is present, when the click is there, it just happens-it overwhelms-it takes control. Love saves us as if we want to be saved. “To love somebody is not just a strong feeling it is a decision it is a judgement, it is a promise...love is as love does, love is an act of will, both an intention and action...we don’t have to love, we choose to love. “We can acknowledge the click we feel when we

In our society, media, movies and politics when romance is depicted as a project women are looked at as the sentimental, romantic and men follow them around like little puppy dogs. Hooks believes that the expression that we “fall in love” “reflects the peculiar attitude towards love it's a mixture of fear, awe, fascination and confusion. It implies suspicion that, “if we continue to believe we are swept away, caught up in the rapture, that we lack choice and will..if you do not know what you feel, then it is difficult to choose love; it is better to fall”. Then you can say you are not responsible for your actions because you fell in love with the wrong person, so many people believe love is blind and I am one of them. We do not have to love, we choose to love. we should stand back and look at ourselves, we should evaluate our needs, wants, goals, dreams, desires, qualities we want in our romantic partner as well as qualities you have in yourself. By doing this able to see if any of your past partners met any of your qualification. I recently sat down and did this I was not surprised that my ex husband was not up to par. I will be carefully evaluating my next partner more