A friend from college recently told me that she was the main target of the rumor which was circulating for months before she heard about it. The content of the gossip pertained her intimate life claiming that “she has been fucked” by a guy or more precisely specific “guy fucked her”. Although she admitted having kissed the guy on the party, she claimed that nothing else had happened and even the kiss was the result of intoxication rather than an expression of genuine interest coming from her. What was the most interesting about this gossip was the way she found out about it. She was told by the guy she has been dating recently that when he mentioned her in front of other guys, one of them immediately asked: ‘Isn’t that a girl who that guy fucked?” …show more content…
It is reasonable to conclude that the guy claiming being intimate with the girl spread the rumor to increase his value in the eyes other guys which reinforces the idea that masculinity is measured by the number of women the man manages to hook up with. Having slept with a girl is a personal accomplishment the rewards of which are so high, that one might be tempted to spread the lies. Additionally, it assigns the active role to men in intimate relationships, emphasizing the belief that man are the ones who initiate and reach the goal, while the women comply passively by “being fucked”. Except from promoting prejudices around sexually active and therefore successful masculinity and passive femininity, the gossip serves as the mean to control female sexuality. The fact that she suddenly turned into “a girl who that guy fucked” indicates that sexuality became the central part of her identity and nothing else mattered: “not what she accomplishes, what she thinks, not what she cares about and works for” (Jessica Valenti, Cult of Virginity). She is defined by the guys she was intimate with which is supposed to control her sexuality by spreading rumors and shaming. We should also note how this kind of gossip
Regardless of her sexual preference, the thought of a woman thinking that way about another female was seen as taboo in the
One little move on a girl or guy can turn you into becoming a mother or father. This isn't the only “pornographic” detail Luis states in his book, there are much more. He writes these details in his book because it is the reality of what teenagers do and he wants to teach teenagers life lessons about sex. Luis faced discrimination, arrests, gangs, drugs, and all kinds of street crimes. But, within all this Luis continued to go to school and opportunities popped up for him.
She thinks the line between these two things is hard to distinguish, because there is a misconception that if someone is being sexual that they must automatically want sex, which isn't always the case. So, in order to create her definition and really outline what sex is she felt she needed to encompass these three things. Her first definition which she later rejects is that in order for an act to be considered sex, it must be a "conscious, consenting, mutually acknowledged pursuit of shared sexual pleasure" (Christina 6). She came to this conclusion because her original thoughts were based on heterosexual relationships only, but after experiencing same sex love, she needed to reframe her mind and think about sex for all people and all relationships.
The article Gender and the Meaning and Experience of Virginity Loss in the Contemporary United States suggests, “Young women, while more permissive than in previous decades, continued to value virginity and predicate sexual activity on love and committed romantic relationship, whereas young men continued to express disdain for virginity, engage in sexual activity primarily out of curiosity and desire for physical and welcome opportunities for casual sex” (Carpenter 1). This depicts the need for sexual activity rather than a romantic relationship by men and why they may look at women as sexual objects rather than ordinary
Firstly, what does the Madonna/Whore complex even mean? According to Gottschall, it is defined as how “men and/or society divide women into two binary types: virgins and whores.
Ken Kesey’s One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest, published in 1962, tells the story of men in a psychiatric ward and focuses on two characters called McMurphy and Bromden, and their defiance towards the institution’s system. A critical factor in this novel are the women. The 1960’s played a significant role in changing the norms of social issues, and the perfect idea of women was changing too. Women were no longer just stay at home wives, but had their own voice in society, and many people did not agree with these untraditional views. Kesey’s representation of women in this novel illustrate them in a poor light that makes it obvious that they don’t fit the ideal womanly persona.
[7] In his book, “Missoula,” John Krakauer analyses the issue of rape in the college town of Missoula. Krakauer begins his work by quoting the article False Allegations of Sexual Assault: Rape is unique. No other violent crime is so fraught with controversy, so enmeshed in dispute and in the politics of gender and sexuality… And within the domain of rape, the most highly charged area of debate concerns the issue of false allegations. For centuries, it has been asserted and assumed that women “cry rape,” that a large proportion of rape allegations are maliciously concocted for purposes of revenge or other motives.
Women who are also known to have slept with other men are dishonored. Also as the girls get older the author shows them independent and successful, even with a man. Which shows that the Garcia girls aren’t just some ordinary family. The feud between men and women has being going on for hundreds of years with not one that is completely better than the other.
Because she is female and wants someone there for her, she is viewed as troublesome and a whore. “Don’t you ever take a look at that bitch. I don’t care what she says and what she does. I seen ‘em poison before, but I never seen no piece of jail bait worse than her.” (Steinbeck 32).
“Although concerning sexual practices between adults and children have existed throughout history and across cultures, whether such behavior was conceived of and defined as ‘abuse’ has been dependent on the societal values of the particular period” (Denov, 2004). In today’s society, sex offending has become an increasingly, concerning phenomenon that individuals must become more aware of. Although generally regarded as a male phenomenon, over time, female perpetrators have become equally important as male perpetrators. Due to the lack of public awareness, female sexual predators go unreported. As a result, society must become more aware of female sexual perpetrators, as many incidents of females assaulting both young men and women have gone unreported for some time.
Not only does she want attention from men, but she is willing to obtain it from young boys. “You make my mouth
Eliza Haywood writes the cautionary tale Fantomina in order to instruct women against pursuing their sexual desires. The protagonist, an unnamed “Lady of distinguished Birth” (41), secretly pursued her desires for Beauplaisir under the guise of four different personas, ultimately leading to the ruin of her reputation and being sent to live in a monastery. I will refer to the main character when she is not disguised as the protagonist to avoid confusion. I will be discussing female sexuality, where I will be focussing on certain aspects including sexual identity, sexual behaviour, and how social and religious aspects affect this sexuality. I will argue that Haywood uses the cautionary tale in order to represent female sexuality as distinguishable
She does not only point out that many male rap artists sexualize
Moreover, this restriction on expressing sexuality encourages passive behavior amongst women. In addition, linking a woman’s ethics to her body reinforces the double standard related to sexuality between men and women. Ultimately, being sexual is “stigmatized in women, but encouraged in men” (Heldman, Part 2). This double standard, combined with the expectations of passivity, reinforces the concept of rape culture. Women are expected to refrain from sex in order to embody purity and thus, are defined by what they do not do.
Why is the only female role considered a slut? Looking through a feminist lens, the woman and almost only woman in the party is a “slut”, likes sleeping around. Why is there just a singular female role in this situation. “Have you done this before? Of course hundreds of times- well scores of times anyway”.