In some cases, the parents are only trying to help their child instead of make their child feel this way. In “ from Confetti Girl and “from Tortilla Sun”, the situations in both stories created tension between the narrator and their parents which proves that they way a child is affected by their parent not only destroys them but keeps them from facing their parents. Sometimes the child feels hopeless and neglected. When analyzing these stories, tension was created because of the different points of view between the narrator and their
Living in the train car was difficult because of the circumstances of conditions with not much water and food, shared upon dozens of people. Separation from her family and the conditions of travel caused her to spread psychological madness. Lyle H. Rossiter, Jr., M.D. wrote, “Rather, the adult drive toward omnipotent control of others, in any arena whatever, is rooted in fears of separation, abandonment loss or abuse--the residual effects of early attachment gone wrong.” (The Liberal Mind, 2005) This explains how separation could cause mishaps in behavior.
The lie of a parent can be well armed that it takes maturity of a child to become aware of it. They might forgive but not forget, nor-erased traumatic events that will remain in their memories. Our educational actions receive from adults (parents, teachers, siblings, grandparents) in our infancy-stages build and create our characteristics. We become who we are based on our personality- a result of our temper. Our behavior is reflected based on beliefs, values and life experiences.
When a parent exhibits “excesses of warmth or coldness” (Lourie l.10) towards their child, it might cause uncertainty and a sense of unpredictability. The parent's contradictory and conflicting actions may lead to feelings of resentment. Inconsistent emotional behaviours can damage the child's trust in the parent. When a child continually views a parent's shows of warmth as false and their displays of coldness as rejection, it can cultivate a profound mistrust in the child towards the parent's true intentions and actions, harbouring feelings of resentment. The accumulation of resentment and mistrust caused by inconsistent emotional behaviour might affect the child's emotional well-being and impede their ability to form healthy relationships, as well as lead to a catastrophic path of personal struggles.
They may feel this emotion because they have been left with the task of helping out around the house and other siblings. These feelings come to the child when he/ she are at their weakest and they might even regret ever being born. This feeling is due to the stress of the child's parent/guardian leaving. Telemachus felt this same kind of feeling when Odysseus left because three years after the Trojan war when Odysseus had not returned telemachus had to deal with the suitors taking over his house”For the chiefs from all our islands,Dulichium,Same,and the Woodland island of Zacynthus,as also all the principal men of Ithaca Itself,are eating up my house”(Homer par
“I was a bother and a burden they could do without. ”(Walls 30) “Before Mom left, she gave me two hundred dollars. That was plenty, she said, to buy food for Brian and Maureen and me for two months and pay the water and electricity bills”(Walls 209) These examples are proof of an uncaring family who didn't value their kids. These examples of neglect can lead to a precarious childhood which can be a significant factor in depression.
Child abandonment is a choice a parent made to not be in their child life. In doing so, this causes a failure to have a strong relationship with their offspring, which can lead to an instability in child's life and the feelings of loneliness and hatred towards their parents. Abandoned children begin to think about doubts and uncertainty in their life. These neglected children are put in pain and misery at such a young age that might hangs how they act as they grow older. Throughout their life all they think about is the self-worth and why their life is set up a certain way.
Parental neglect has a huge impact on children. It can make children psychopaths, killers, terrorists, and even sexual predators. Multiple studies show that children that do not get the proper nourishment from their parents show that they are more likely to be failing school and to not succeed in life. Also, studies show that children that are neglected from their parents can be related to other failures in life. Parents are the children’s role model and they influence how their child will be raised.
Children talk about how their parents abandoned them and left them behind. For instance, Enrique states, “I wouldn’t be this way if I had two parents” (198).Enrique tells his mother that he acts this way because both of his parents were never in his life. Enrique acts out because his parents are not in his life . He says that if his parents were in his life, then he would of never choose to sniff glue or join a gang before he reconnected with his mother. Also, Enrique says to his mother that “You long ago lost the right to tell me what to do” (198).
Exclusion creates a strong desire and need for a person to belong. “…these children are left to feel like an outsider, especially in the earlier decades where children were often shunned by their families and their community as it was considered socially and religiously immoral to be an illegitimate child.” Another effect of disaffection on the child’s psyche is the destruction of their view of self-worth. When people constantly propel the idea of someone encompassing the epitome of immorality, insufficiency, and worthlessness, that person starts to form a distorted view of themselves. Disfigured self-image directly correlates to hopelessness, depression, and suicidal tendencies.
Lacking parenting is common in all over the world contemporary. Some of the children may grow up to normal. But more serious, some of them may turn to have mental problems.
Becoming a parent is a task that cannot be taken lightly. It is a task filled with frustration, responsibilities and dedication, but is also filled with joy and satisfaction. From children learning how to behave to them going out with friends, rules, standards and expectations are set mostly by their parents. Parents make most of their children’s decision in the first couple of years from behalf from what they eat for breakfast from setting their curfew as they get older. As children began grow, they began to make their own choices and learn to deal with the consequence of their mistakes.
The experiences people go through impact the way the see world and those around them. Children are raised by their parents and witnesses to the triumphs and failures. When the age comes many often question their parent’s decisions. Some may feel bitterness and contempt while others may feel admiration and motivation. The “Sign in My Father’s Hands” by Martin Espada conveys the feeling of being treated as a criminal for doing the right thing.
It diverts attention with powerful emotions like anger, shame, and jealously. And when all else fails, it calls upon fear to seal the doors of our innermost being shut. Riley tries to push her father away by rejecting all his efforts in trying to console her in accepting the reality. This prove that drastic changes in teenager’s environment may brought a big impact towards the individuals if the matter is not being tackled in a correct manner. This can be proven when Riley doesn’t give any response to her dad’s tease in her bedroom after Riley flagrantly yelling at her parent when they insist to ask about the first day at new school and thus causing her dad to scold her.
It can also have negative effects on the child since the bad acts siblings do such as anti social behavior, smoking and drinking can also affect a child (Conger in Ciciora, 2010). The research also
