Analysis Of Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?

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In the story “Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been?” by Joyce Carol Oats the overall theme is maturing as a woman. With this theme comes different experiences that main character Connie has experienced. Connie is a fifteen year old girl who is maturing and trying to step into womanhood as a teenager.Connies confidence is always debunked by her mother, she always scorns Connie insisting that she stops always looking at herself and being overly confident in herself. While Connie sneaks a date an older guy hits on her, this older man named Arnold Friend comes to Connie's home and insists that Connie comes outside for a ride or her family will get hurt. Connie is verbally assaulted and the audience is led to believe that Connie is taking advantage …show more content…

Connie showed that she was uninterested in Alrond Friend and this triggered something in his brain to keep going for her. In the article “It’s over” by Lisa A. Phillips speaks of the effect of rejection, the psychological side of rejection, and how it can affect the mind. “In part, the hurt stems from the same reason that all rejection is painful--because we are fundamentally social creatures whose lives depend on our connections to one another…Social ostracization sends a subconscious signal that our survival is at stake”(Phillips 2015). When a person is rejected a person can not predict how that person will react. A person's want to be loved is sought after even if they may have a family that affirms them or not. Although that may be true if a person is brought up in a healthy environment they may be more open to talk about certain things. This can cause them to be educated on topics so they won’t go into situations clueless. This can also cause them to avoid certain situations in the first place. Connie left her friends to go meet boys, not knowing any of them. This caused her to be around the wrong company, which led to an unfortunate situation. If she would have felt comfortable to talk about her curiosity with boys to her family then this may have been avoided. If she would have felt safe talking to her family then she may not have had to sneak around with boys and unintentionally place herself in danger to an older