Family. They’re some of your biggest supporters, craziest friends, and most excited confidants. But within the hustle and bustle of wedding planning, overlooked details, past conflicts, and misunderstandings can cause tensions to rise (and sometimes unfortunately explode into full-out fights). What if your mom likes the A-line dress but your dad’s totally against it. (You’re rather neutral about the last five dresses you’ve tried on.) And of course your seafood-loving uncle from Louisiana insists on having shrimp for the wedding reception, but don’t forget—your brother’s allergic to shellfish. On top of all that, your great aunt claims she just has to bring all five of her chihuahuas to the ceremony, but you know for a fact they bark at …show more content…
Well, let me be the one to tell you that hurt feelings will be inevitable, so don’t feel too guilty; rather, be prepared to explain and apologize for the unintentional bumps in the road along the way. Contrary to popular belief, some issues are not meant to be “blown over.” The little bits of pent up frustration and anger can tear your wedding apart at the last minute. Sit down and talk problems through. And don’t expect your wedding to be a peace-talks event to bring all your family members together. There will be plenty of time for everyone to hash out their grievances later, after the wedding. This might be especially relevant for those with divorced or remarried parents. If that’s you, have a frank conversation and ask them to put aside their differences where the wedding is concerned. If you can’t get through to them, you may want to enlist the help of family and friends to keep them placated on the big day. When your family gifts you money.
Another point to consider is that many times, family conflicts arise from financial roots. The wisest way to deal with money gifts from family is to thank them for their generosity and ask if they have conditions on how they would like you to spend it. If it’s in a way that doesn’t suit you, kindly decline the gift, and explain that you wouldn’t want to disappoint them if you can’t fulfill their wishes. This way you can stay gracious and maintain your control over the wedding planning process. All in