Bdsm And Forbidden Games

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What all of the scholars and the academic journals that I have researched, have in common is their belief and proof that BDSM participants are just like everyone else. As we have seen whenever BDSM or BDSM practitioners are represented they are always shown with these terrible pasts, and terrible personality traits. From both Herbert and Weaver’s journal and Faccio, Casani, and Cipolette’s journal “An examination of personality characteristics associated with BDSM orientations” and “Forbidden games: the construction of sexuality and sexual pleasure by

BDSM ‘players’” we see that these individuals are more open to try new things, they are more conscientious and more agreeable. BDSM players all describe their sexual experiences in a positive …show more content…

The scholars do have opposing opinions on whether or not a dominant and submissive personality is the same when they are in their role or not. Herbert and Weaver claimed that several of their participants personalities were very similar to the roles they take on during their BDSM play, but in Faccio, Casani, and Cipolletta’s they found that most of their participants roles are very opposite or just not completely the same as they are when they turn on their role. In my opinion I do not think that there needs to be one right and one wrong argument. I believe, and research has proven, that the personality characteristics vary from person to person, no matter what role they play, or if they are even playing with BDSM. As described by a male in Faccio, Casani, and Cipolletta’s study, “Sexuality is all we can do and we must do it to achieve pleasure”(758). We need to stop looking so deeply into why these individuals are into BDSM, because they are doing it because it is what they want to do and they have given consent for it. Submissive’s agree that they enjoy being at service and enjoy making people happy and dominants agree that they like to be the ones making the decisions. If both parties agree, and they are not doing anything harmful to anybody else there should