First of all, even though both parents care equally for their children it does not separate the fact that different methods can have different impacts. According to the text, Gopnik states, “Busyness is our art form, our civic ritual, our way of being us” (160). This means that the way the world functions around him is all about being busy and never spending time away from that. It shows that as a parent even though he cares for his daughter, it slips his mind that she is going through these emotions because of the ritual of being busy. If it were not to be a “civic ritual” then he would notice the actions of his daughter earlier and be more active in the situation than letting it develop over a period of time. For example, the word “Busyness”