Forgiveness
The word forgiveness sounds like an easy concept to understand and act upon it- but it’s much harder than anybody can believe. Saying the phrase, “I forgive you,” and actually going through the stages and presses of the forgiving process is two totally different things. For example, when someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge, or embrace forgiveness and move forward with your life. In order to forgive others, you have to be able to forgive yourself. You have to accept the fact that we all are human, and also we all have faults and make mistakes. But first you have to let go of your self-anger to self-forgive.
All through middle school, and high school I hated myself. I felt like the only thing I was
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Maybe my mom couldn’t change because she felt like if she didn’t deserve to be forgiven. That’s when it hit me. Just because she’d messed up and done some wrong things didn’t mean she didn’t deserve to be forgiven; to get help. That’s when it clicked. I could be the one to help my mom forgive herself, but first I had to forgive MYSELF before I could forgive and help her. I had to forgive myself, and help myself to let go of my anger, hurt, pain, and start to love myself and all that I am. I had to understand that what happened wasn’t my fault; that I wasn’t the cause of all my mothers’ anger. Only then was I able to grow into the person I am today; only then I was able to start on the path of truly forgiving others.
Forgiveness is a decision to let go of all the resentment and thoughts of revenge. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you. Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and also it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a peace that helps you move on and prosper with