Happiness that runs deep is those moments that bring more of an afterglow. One thing that blocks spontaneous flow of happiness is self-awareness. When we are aware or anxious about whether we are achieving happiness, then it is not going to happen. Aspirational happiness is often associated with fake cheerfulness or without any seriousness of life. By the very nature of happiness, the opposite of it is not unhappiness or even depression, but anxiety. Anxiety is something that blocks our happiness in our normal daily life. Beyond the happiness and unhappiness, there is a peace.
Happiness is different from pleasure. Happiness is plenty in simple stuffs of our life. Much of it is to enjoy in natural form in our daily work, small talk, a ride, a dinner, little walk, simple music. Enjoy the little things now, for one day you may look back and appreciate that they were the big things. Seize the moments (remember those old TV ads: “Kodak Moments” “Miller Time”) and make them events. Happiness is our capacity to enjoy, not the absence of suffering but in spite of the suffering. One can be suffering from illness but still be happy – just not in the
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When he is obsessed with finding happiness he often finds himself in the terrible feeling of a bottomless nothingness. Happiness is not avoiding unhappiness. It is to be found in the contrast of uneven feeling of our daily life. In order to have happiness we need have to go through pain and unhappiness; otherwise, how would we know when we're happy? We cannot see black print on a black paper or white print on a white paper. We need contrast: black print on a white paper or white print on a black paper. It is the contrast of happiness in the background of unhappiness. It is the relative state of positive or negative feelings rather than an absolute feeling. Life invariably would have ups and downs. Interplay of pleasure and pain would take their turn time to