A Tough Nut to Break: Porn, Drugs and Alcohol Controversial topics such as porn, drugs and alcohol evoke strong feelings with many parents. As a mother, you can get all anxious when you need to touch upon the subject with your teenage daughter, especially if you have stayed away from the topics for a long time and you are now getting some tough questions. While there is so much information about drugs and alcohol online, porn is pretty controversial. Most parents don’t really feel confident and comfortable about breaking the idea of talking about it with their adolescents. Most of the approaches related to talking about porn that will be discussed here apply to drugs and alcohol, too, so feel free to adapt them. But, porn is a really tricky subject - no wonder so many get …show more content…
Grown-ups typically have an array of negative feelings about porn, such as shame, disgust or fear. Coming from that viewpoint doesn’t make difficult conversations any easier. If anything, it makes them more difficult. What can you do to help yourself? Sharing your concern, fear and shame around the topic with other moms can help you relieve some of the anxiety and worry you have so that you are able to approach the conversation with your daughter with warmth, self-assurance, and in a relaxed and non-judgemental way. Moms (and parents overall!) often use scare tactics to warn children against sex, drugs or alcohol. These seldom work. Catastrophic consequences of the scare tactics are rarely based on true knowledge. When you are trying to scare your daughter with information that is not true, and she is seeing that other children are going through the same without ending up dead or hurt, you will not only lose your integrity as a parent, but you can also make your way into an unreliable, scared and an unsafe source of information. That’s not where a mom wants to