A healthy relationship consists of many things. Communication, trust, quality time, appreciation, respect, and love. Sometimes people mistake love for infatuation or fantasy. The simple idea of being with this person. Swearing up and down that they are perfect. We’ve created an idea in our head of who they are and how things will be. Building an illusion of unrealistic expectations and dreams without seeing the actual real person and their flaws. That is what it seems Gatsby’s love for Daisy was. Gatsby’s love for Daisy wouldn’t not constitute a healthy relationship. Gatsby mistakes love for fantasy and validation due to his poverty in the past. Jay Gatsby met Daisy Fay five years prior to the start of the book, when he was stationed in Louisville before WWI. He learned to act wealthy by a friend and maintained that lie when he met Daisy, who was In the book it tells you how popular Daisy was in the past with all the military officers stationed near her home. He thinks he has to keep up that lie to keep Daisy because of her wealth. Daisy is the epitome of perfection to Gatsby. She was upper class, wealthy, sophisticated, and charming. All things Gatsby longed for in his childhood. Gatsby won daisy’s heart and they made love the night before he left …show more content…
In the beginning, before he leaves for war, it seems as though Gatsby and Daisy’s love was real. But Daisy wasn’t the person she used to be or the person Gatsby dreamed her to be and that was overwhelming on it’s own. Towards the end Gatsby’s love seems to turn more into an obsessive to prove his new worth and value, to show off his success and trophies, including Daisy. When that didn’t work out as planned, and he didn’t receive the amount of validation he needed he decided to end his life, over whelmed just like Daisy. The past is the past and you can’t live in it. What Gatsby imagined was like a fairytale, and it didn’t come
As much as Gatsby is seen as a romantic he could also be seen as though he is stuck in his own fantasy. Gatsby is so hung up on this old idea he has of Daisy from five years ago, that he can't see that she has moved on. “Can't repeat the past?” he cried incredulously. “Why of course you can!”.
Gatsby’s dream was to be together with her and rose up the ranks of at first just being a poor soldier to being a rich business partner. Gatsby knew from the beginning that he could never be with Daisy since he was poor and Daisy was a first-class lady. Gatsby didn’t let that stop him from trying to achieve such happiness. He worked for five years to get the ample-sized house he so wanted that was practically
Gatsby’s “Greatness” Greatness is showed by the choices we make in life. From how we see the circumstances and how we react to them. Gatsby is not as great of a man as Nick claims that he is. Gatsby makes foolish, childish and delusional decisions and not at all great.
In F. Scott Fitzgerald’s The Great Gatsby, Fitzgerald portrays love, obsession, and objectification through the characters Jay Gatsby and Daisy Buchanan. Some might say their love was true and Gatsby’s feelings for her was pure affection, while others say that he objectifies and is obsessed with her. Perhaps Gatsby confuses lust and obsession with love, and throughout the novel, he is determined to win his old love back. At the end of the novel, Gatsby is met with an untimely death and never got to be with Daisy. The reader is left to determined if Gatsby’s and Daisy’s love was pure and real, or just wasn’t meant to be.
Love, a deep affection, is only complete when felt by two unique individuals. In this story Gatsby has become blinded by his affection for Daisy he does not stop to consider anything else but being with her. He has this illusion and fantasy he has longed for since a little boy in his dream. While he has obtained everything else, the fame, glory, and wealth he lacks one thing, a lover. He has his life all crafted out and Daisy was his missing piece.
(Fitzgerald 65) The feelings Gatsby possessed for his past love, Daisy Buchanan, were real while also very young and immature. Daisy matured to be with other men while Gatsby spent his whole life and wealth searching for Daisy. The purest form of love shown in this novel was came from George Wilson. His jealousy was shown when he killed Gatsby assuming he was his wife’s lover.
These quotes infer that Gatsby doesn't even love Daisy he just thinks he does because he doesn't see her for who she really is, he is blinded by his past, he thinks he can recreate the past and that everything will be the same. He's made some kind of perfect image of her in his mind that he doesn't see her for who she really
Gatsby is extremely eager to start a life with Daisy and does several things to try to speed up the process – he works hard to be able to own a huge mansion and throw big parties, he gets Nick to re-introduce Daisy to him , he gives Daisy a tour of his house in hopes of her loving it enough to imagine living with him,
Gatsby has spent his whole life trying to prove to Daisy and everyone around him that he is worthy of her. The only way to be on the same social level as her is to turn himself into new money. Since this is not possible, he has to try to convince to others that he truly is old money. To do this, he becomes rich, and lies about his past, but the only way for him to complete this idea is if he is with Daisy. She is the final piece in his American dream.
If Gatsby is to truly love Daisy, instead of destroying her marriage, he would have let her go. However, because of his extreme devotion towards Daisy, he dreams of a utopia where their feelings for each other is mutual. Thus, he demands her to say that she has never loved Tom to affirm that she loves him only, but Daisy does fall in love with Tom at some point in her marriage, in between the five years of Gatsby’s absence. Nonetheless, Gatsby does not give up. He “[clutches]
After Daisy moved on, Gatsby set out to make his millions to win her back. Gatsby meets her years later and gives her a choice of money or love. Daisy reveals her true colors by pursuing the
Gatsby falls in love with Daisy the first minute he meets her and never stops loving her even though she has obviously moved on. Gatsby does everything he can to be closer to her like buying “that house so that Daisy would be just across the bay” (78). Gatsby knows that if he can get the girl of his dreams he will not feel lonely anymore. " He talked a lot about the past… he wanted to recover something, some idea of himself perhaps, that had gone into loving Daisy. His life had been confused and disordered since then, but if he could once return to a certain starting place and go over it all slowly, he could find out what that thing was” (87).
In The Great Gatsby, F. Scott Fitzerald expresses a negative view of the 1920's and the American Dream. He does this using the characters, setting, and symbolism. One character Fitzgerald uses to show his view of the 1920s is Nick. Nick doesn't have much of an effect on the story, he just observes everything as it happens and makes silent judgements of those around him. The reader experiences the story through his eyes and sees the world the way Nick perceives it.
Jay 's Obsession in The Great Gatsby There is a fine line between love and lust. If love is only a will to possess, it is not love. To love someone is to hold them dear to one 's heart. In The Great Gatsby, the characters, Jay Gatsby and Daisy Buchanan are said to be in love, but in reality, this seems to be a misconception.
Gatsby had known Daisy for a long period of time. Gatsby realized when he first met Daisy that she was the love of his life. Though they were separated for a lengthy interim, Gatsby had devoted his entire life to gaining the love of Daisy. In fact, his mind was "full of the idea so long, dreamed it right through to the end, waited with his teeth set, so to speak, at an inconceivable pitch of intensity” (Fitzgerald 88). Gatsby's only goal in life was to achieve Daisy's love; therefore, he was filled with excitement when his chance came to prove his love to Daisy.