It is known fact that the past shapes us in ways that we have control over, and ones where we don’t. Past events and experiences are a powerful factor in our sense of identity and belonging in that it helps us realise who to be and who not to be. It is the past that teaches us who to belong to and who to avoid. For example, children raised by abusive parents might grow up to despise abusive behaviour and choose an identity that has no resemblance to that of their parents. Also because of their past experiences, they might choose not to belong to groups or families who are abusive. However, the past is also a powerful factor in our sense of identity and belonging because it shapes us in ways we have no control over. It is through ancestry and