The quote, “Nothing matters so much in life as to live it decently," is part of a very compassionate memoir called Romulus, My Father by Raimond Gaita, which he wrote for his father after his death. The memoir has many important themes embedded throughout, but the sense of self-identity is important as it relates to the quote being discussed. Friendship is shown to be important in achieving a sense of self-identity, as Romulus and Hora have such a strong bond and throughout the memoir, they have assisted each other to find themselves when lost. The friendship and shared conversation enjoyed by his father became a key factor in Gaita’s formative years. Friendship is esteemed, a reflection of self and social identity, a benchmark against which