Growing up every young girl dreams of her perfect wedding. She imagines every detail: the dress, the flowers, the bridesmaids. She pictures herself walking down the aisle looking stunning while her friends and family watch enviously. She swans down the aisle to meet her prince charming at the altar. While this image of an idyllic wedding is one many of us have dreamt of, it could not be further from reality. Marriage is steeped in patriarchal misogyny designed to suppress women. The emphasis placed upon the wedding ceremony is outrageous. Marriage also complicates things greatly for those unhappy couples among us want to separate. Despite all this people are still getting married. Why?
Marriage has snaked its way into almost every culture
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Yes that was in the 1800s and it was all a long time ago, but what about 1950? Was that so long ago? In the 50s a marriage was about having a husband who would go out and provide for the family while the wife stayed at home being a homemaker. As a consequence they didn't necessarily have to spend a lot of time with one another or like each other much for that matter, it was just an added bonus if they did. Even the dictionary definition of marriage doesn't mention love, or even affection: “The legally or formally recognised union of two people as partners in a personal relationship.” The sad reality is that we have been convinced by the patriarchy to believe that marriage is now ‘inclusive’ and ‘equal’, but they are just as misogynistic as ever. There still seems to be some delirious people among us who have apparently been living under a rock (or perhaps they slept through the uproar of the feminism movement) who somehow believe there is still only one path in life: find a man, settle down and have kids and to do otherwise would be ludicrous. However marriage is not a prerequisite to adult life and having kids. While courageous millennials and feminists are trying to change the spinster stereotype it is still deeply rooted in our society. This needs to