When looking at my family, and the history of what has shaped my life, the main even that I can identify is having my son Hayden out of wedlock. This effected not only in a positive but somewhat of a negative way as well. Even though in our present time, children out of wedlock is not uncommon; However, many people such as the older generations still believe that you should be married before you have children. Some of the issues I encountered changed me and the outlook I have now. There were also positive lessons learned from this experience as well. Such as, new responsibilities, and they expectations of your significant other.
When I first found out I was expecting, just like every new parent does, you have a minor freak out. I know all of us moms have been there! But, the first thing that runs through one’s head is “we have to tell our families!” but this became a struggle for me. Why was this a problem? The majority of
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My family became my rock, my now fiancé’s support system, and our biggest supporters. I can definitely say that these emotions that same of my family felt was worry, struggle, and probably disappointment, but it all make us mature in a situation that was out of our control. Hayden is the glue that now holds all of my family together. We became stronger and matured, not only matt and I but a lot of my family members did as well. This also shaped how we were going to raise our son. Both matt and I have been raised in a stick southern home. With respect, manners and importance to do what you were asked. In modern families I have seen have been where there are no consequences or displace in the child’s life. This is not what we wanted for Hayden. This situation changed our family’s life course. This was the best learning experience and maturing that I could have received. I become a better mother and soon to be wife by realizing that I now have a family of my