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Personal Narrative: My Father's Parenting Style

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While I was growing up, both my mother’s and father’s parenting style was a combination of permissive and authoritative. I believe them being a mix of both influenced me in both positive and negative ways because no type is perfect. Although I am not a parent yet, I hope I am the same way my parents were with me. Based on what I know, I would explain to new parents that being too strict on your children can do more harm than good and it is a good idea to let your child express themselves. To begin, while I was growing up, my parents were a combination of permissive and authoritative with me and my three older siblings. We had rules to follow and chores to do, but my parents never became that angry with us if we did not follow through on them. …show more content…

My mom would not yell at me, but she would make me go clean it with her even if I had other things to do. Another example would be when my parents told us to be back by 11 p.m. If we decided to go home later than that, all we had to do was call them and it would be fine. In the end, I believe they are authoritative because they set rules for us and were always up to discuss a disagreement, but they are also permissive because it did not take much for them to side with us. Moving on, I believe my parents being a mix of authoritative and permissive had both positive and negative influences on my behavior as a child. When I was a child, I liked being on my own, but I also liked being with people; No matter where I was, I was content with who I was with or without and that is one positive behavior I believe I acquired from my …show more content…

I have so many friends with strict parents that do almost everything behind their parent’s backs. My friends will go out and tell their parents that they are sleeping over at my house or throw parties at their house while their parents are gone because their parents are too strict to let them have fun if they ever knew. Being too strict on your children will only separate you from them, so at some point it is important to realize that you cannot control everything they do. It is also important to let your child express themselves. Holding a child back from who they are just because you want them to be something different will also separate you two and can affect their future happiness greatly. In the end, new parents should try their best to not be too strict with their children and need to let their child express themselves. In conclusion, my parents were a mix of authoritative and permissive with me and my three older siblings. Their mixture of parenting styles had both positive and negative influences on my behavior as child. However, I hope I am the same way with my children as my parents were with me. If I could give a piece of advice to new parents, it is to never be too strict all the time and to let your children express themselves in a way that makes them

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