Nonverbal Communication Of Forgiveness

Part One

1. Write a list of forgiveness you’d like to give to others or write a list of people who might want your forgiveness. (Maybe you can make a list of hurtful messages you’ve received or other harmful acts.) What do you need to do? What do you need from the others?

Danny

Devon

Marcelo

Abbass

Karim

Ahmed

I need to be patient and be willing to reconcile, understanding that forgiveness is a complicated path. The book mentions that it takes time and we must be willing to overlook the minor transgression as it has many negative traits. What I would need from others is to seek forgiveness and admit they were in the wrong; when one seeks forgiveness they have harmed another party in some way, at least that is how I see it

2. Write

I must forgive myself before I forgive them so my body language portrays the nonverbal communication of forgiveness, if I don't and they accept my apology I may show contempt. Understanding that forgiveness is not the final destination, sometimes it is earned even if the party says you are forgiven. I also need to admit the truth and apologize for any harm, whether emotional or physical, that was committed.

3. Compare and contrast your lists. What do you notice? I seem to seek forgiveness more than it is seeked from me. I have always lived my life knowing I have no regrets no matter what, maybe that is why I don't seek forgiveness from as many people who seek it from me. I have already forgiven those who seek forgiveness from me, but they just have to ask for it now, I wonder if it is the same with those I seek forgiveness from. I often take things very lightly, and tend to forgive easily, but like I said, they just have to ask for

Ask the persons you talk to for their perceptions about the hurtful acts or messages. For this I spoke to the 2 people I wanted to forgive me

Sam was hurt, due to the communication barrier of technology. I sent her a text and she perceived it negatively, when it was initially neither negative nor positive. We haven't spoken for a few months, which I thought was good was a good thing as it gave us both time to think and cool off.

Brit was hurt, because I said something that offended her, but she didn't say anything. Her conflict avoidance style made it difficult to determine whether there ever was a conflict. She didn't say anything for months until I asked her if i have ever offended her in any way, then it was brought up.

c. Ask what the other person needs from you

They didn't need much other than a sincere apologize. I tried to initiate the confrontation in person for the conflict when possible, allowing me to use the strategies I learned in the book. They also wanted to know what I was thinking at the time, since both my conflicts (those I seeked forgiveness from) were forms of miscommunication or misinterpretation.

d. Tell the other person what you need from her or