Relationship Analysis Of My Sister

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Relationship Analysis Personally The relationship between my sister and I has been challenging primarily due to us never being able to understand each other’s perspectives. I have never been able to understand why she makes decision that hindered her. I felt as though I failed my sister based on the decisions she made in her life. I understood my role as an older sibling which is why I tried to be cautious about my life decisions. So it is hard to watch her make unnecessary mistakes in her life that could have been prevented if she would have listened to me. I believe my sister does not have any confidence in me due to my critical ways. After reading Habit 6: Seek First to Understand, Then be Understood, I realized that I was placing my own autobiography on my sister without acknowledging her beliefs or thoughts. Our current relationship has a red Emotional Bank account from us not being able to communicate efficiently with one another. I have an assertive way of speaking that leads her to ignore me. The current paradigm of our relationship is Lose/Lose. Neither of us is attempting to improve our interaction with one another. She will not communicate with due to my criticism and I will not waste my time to talk when the outcome is her ignoring me. Interdependence is both us collaborating on building trust and communication within our relationship. However, this will begin with me seeking to understand my sister first, and then seek to be understood. Interdependence