Romantic And Identity Crushes In Romeo And Juliet

Shakespeare uses both romantic and identity crushes to show that parents should take teenage crushes seriously by providing examples of stories and lessons he put together into his plays. For example, One of his many famous plays he has created that is a great example of both romantic and identity crushes is Romeo and Juliet.
A romantic crushes is formed by finding someone whom they find powerfully attractive; moreover, someone who they feel excited to be around, and with whom they want to spend a lot of time. Parents most often know not to take these romantic crushes serious because they know sooner or later their children will outgrow these crushes and move onto the next crush: “Most romantic crushes don’t last very long because once the

has Romeo go to a party that the Capulets were having and while Romeo was in search for the girl he supposedly loved named Rosaline but while finding out that she was not there he found another girl he had lay his eyes on. Her name was Juliet: “If I profane with my unworthiest hand this holy shrine, the gentle fine is these: My lips, two blushing pilgrims, ready stand to smooth that rough touch with a tender kiss . . . “ (Shakespeare act 1.scene 5. Line 91). While on the other hand identity crushes are way different from romantic crushes. Identity crushes are formed by finding someone they much admire, want to become like, and treat as a leader or model they are eager to imitate and follow. These’s identity crushes are more serious than romantic crushes: “Identity crushes often last longer because the adolescent is focused not so much on pleasing the other person as on altering themselves . . . ” (Pickardt). When a teenager has an identity crush the parents should try to understand where the teenager is coming from looking up to their identity crushes and always try to be understanding and supportive towards their children’s identity crushes. In Romeo and Juliet Shakespeare uses Romeo and Friar Laurence’s relationship as an identity crush. Because whenever Romeo is stuck in a situation where he needs some help in making the right choices he always goes to Friar Laurence and ask him what to do. Romeo looks up to Friar Laurence as a mentor: “Holy Saint Francis! What a change is here! Is Roseline, that thou didst love so dear, . . . “ (Shakespeare act 2. Scene 3. Line 65). Friar Laurence tries to keep romeo on the right path and he is always trying to look out for the best for Romeo. Parents should take their children’s identity crushes serious too because these crushes are what their children’s are looking up to and if they’re not showing support to what their children’s believe in it is going to