Renette Tabadero, As the book states, “a secret test is a behavior strategically chosen to indirectly determine a partner’s feelings” (Beebe, Beebe, & Redmond, 2014, p.330). Secret tests can hinder an escalating relationship because it can seem like you are hiding something. When you are dating someone, you should not have to hide anything from them. Being 100% honest and telling the truth is the best way to create a strong relationship. I once used a secret test on my girlfriend by not contacting her. I performed this secret test to see whether or not she would contact me first. In the end, due to our stubbornness, we did not talk for 3 days. The secret test failed and created an argument that could have ended our relationship. Although we