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Emily Mieszek Mrs. Mcbride English IV Honors Exp. 3 3 March 2023 Five direct quotes Two paraphrased passages from primary source One block quote- 5 lines Three secondary quotes Love That Hurts Childhood is full of memories that influence how we choose to live our lives. Some wish they could turn back time and relive it, while others would do anything to forget it. Relationships with parents and spouses can influence the type of person one might grow up to become, for better and sometimes worse. As a child, one can't always achieve independence and escape from an authoritative household, but can later alter their lifestyle and learn from it. Abuse is the impetus for wanting to escape, yet some people choose not to out of fear and traumatic …show more content…

Many factors are present in this type of question and is demonstrated within the novel. During the hardships of Lilys abuse, she constantly wonders what other people would think of her in terms of staying, especially after finding out that she is pregnant by claiming, “She'll pity me. Shell wonder why I never left him. She'll wonder how I let myself get to this point. She’ll wonder all the same things I used to wonder about my own mother when I saw her in my same situation. People spend so much time wondering why the women don't leave. Where are all the people who wonder why the men are even abusive? Isn't that where the only blame should be placed” (Hoover 274)? Although Lily had been suffering from abuse for a while, her stress and desire to escape is higher than ever after finding out that she is pregnant with Ryles baby. She not only has to find the courage to escape for herself, but now for her expected newborn daughter. Easier said than done, Lily questions what it truly means to analyze a toxic relationship from the outside. As emotions are high, Lily truly begins to think about the common factors of abuse and questions why the victim is to be blamed for staying instead of the fact that the abuser is taking advantage of the victim's emotions. What people don't tend to realize is, “The number of people affected is astronomical. Emotional abuse is …show more content…

(2020). The Simplification of Domestic Violence in Colleen Hoover’s It Ends with Us (2016). 10.2991/assehr.k.200729.015. Accessed 9 Feb. 2023. Anderson, Kathleen. “The Power of It Ends with Us.” Unpublished, Unpublished, 1 June 2022, https://www.unpublishedzine.com/personal-essay/the-power-of-it-ends-with-us. Hoover, Colleen. It Ends With Us. Atria Books, 2016. June 2016, “It Ends with Us.” Kirkus Reviews, vol. 84, no. 12, June 2016, p. 232. EBSCOhost, search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx?direct=true&db=f5h&AN=117663737&site=ehost-live. Accessed 9 Feb. 2023. Lancer , Darlene. “The Truth about Abusers, Abuse, and What to Do.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 6 June 2017, https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201706/the-truth-about-abusers-abuse-and-what-do. Smith, Melinda, and Jeanne Segal . “How to Get out of an Abusive Relationship.” HelpGuide.org, 5 Dec. 2022,

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