"Does marriage counseling work? My wife and I have tried seeing a marriage counselor for the past few weeks, but it doesn't seem like it's doing anything... What am I doing wrong?"
If you're like many of the lost and confused husbands in the 21st century, then you have already tried the most commonly prescribed solution to any marriage problem, i.e. marriage counseling.
I don't know when it became such common practice, but somehow the go-to solution for any and all problems that could plague a marriage (separation, loss of passion, divorce, infidelity, lack of communication, etc.), the most prominent and widely advice that you're going to get is "have you tried marriage counseling?"
You would think that such a booming and reputable industry would be
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It doesn't work because these logical solutions are NOT going to work when there is no feelings of attraction or emotional fondness behind them. So even if you're going through the motions correctly, there is no guarantee that you will actually fix your marriage.
In fact, if anything you're almost guaranteed to make it worse, because you'll remind your wife how bad things have to be that she can't feel ANYTHING even when you're apparently trying so hard.
Remember, attraction is the ONLY thing that will save your marriage. Without attraction there is no emotional incentive driving your wife to come back to you... Logic, reason, counseling, courses, books, rational techniques and perseverance will not save your marriage. Feelings, emotion and passion will.
So, does couples counseling work? Does marriage counseling work? I suppose I should let your own experiences give you the definitive answer, but from all of my own experience I would say that you're better off trying to fix things on your own than with a counselor.
If you still have any questions, I would like to encourage you to take a look at my free report.
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