The marital status of my dad, Omar Alkhateeb and stepmother, Ohood Naser has accompanied six specific theories throughout the 21 years that they have so far shared with one another which include; Direct reward, communal relationship, the triangular theory of love, the relational turbulence model, Investment, and interpersonal gap. The interview of the two were done in person and evaluated separately so that we could really assess the inner truths of a long marriage. Understand the workings of how it all started, the problems that they faced, and the dynamic of the relationship then versus now. Besides the fact that this was an arrange marriage, there was a significant age difference between the two, and stepchildren in the picture which gave …show more content…
Rather Ohood explained this as being rooted in cultural ways that was embedded from religion, where the family is involved in the process and intimacy is out of the picture. This courtship was purely based off the two individuals getting to know each other to see if the two would like to move forward with things. In the works of the many meetings that followed to where they are now, married with three kids a lot has changed in their relationship is of that is easily explained through the triangular theory of love (Sternberg, 1987). Intimacy, passion, and commitment are three factors that seem to be crucial in loving someone and as of today it seems right for people to be in love in order to marry someone (Sternberg, 1987). With these three themes that play in an intimate relationship there are many types of love that evolve from that, some being better than other (Sternberg 1987). With Omar and Ohood that was not the case, the lack of initiating any kind of intimacy until after they were married meant that these two were experiencing what Sternberg would call fatuous love (Sternberg, 1987). "I knew I liked him, but I wouldn't say I loved him, I only knew him for six months," was how Ohood explained the beginning stage of their relationship, but in mentioning the reliance, considerate manner, and care that was implemented into the relationship between being married and doing what married couples do, the dynamic with the triangular of love theory developed into consummate love (Sternberg, 1987). Omar puts this theory in perspective when noting that not only has the love grown, but it is different and the means that govern this love that they have will fluctuate throughout the years, this is life but nonetheless we have