Life is unexpected and unfortunate occurrences are inevitable but that does not mean we are unable to affect their impact on us. This also applies to the situation described where the mom discovers spots on her lungs and the family panics. While this is obviously unfortunate, their reactions to it can turn a bad situation worth. If the family were informed of the ABC's of Ellis' approach then changing the overall effect is possible. In the situation such as the one described, my response would be similar assuming I was unaware of Ellis' ABC's. In fact I would most likely jump to conclusions and assume it is certain that my mother has cancer. As a result of this, I would believe that my mother may not make it, that the bills wont get paid, and that no one will be able to care for my siblings. However this would be due to what Ellis described as catastrophic thinking which is,“unrealistic appraisals of stress that exaggerate the magnitude of one's problems”. With this in mind, my secondary appraisal would be that the cancer is not certain,money can be made, and that I am capable of caring for my siblings. Obviously I would still be concerned but there would be no point in …show more content…
The first aspect in Elli's system would be “the activating event that produces the stress”. In this case the doctor informing the family that the spots found on the mothers lungs could indicate cancer is the activating event. Afterwards the belief system(B), which is representative of your appraisal of the stress, is what ultimately determines the the family's' response to the situation. When the appraisals of stressful events, such as the case with the mother, are highly negative then the consequence tends to lead to emotional distress. For example, this can be seen by the frightened father's anger and the confused mother's