According to Adler the different between biological and psychological birth order. Adler explained the biological and psychological effect of the sibling mental complex to each other. Adler stated the oldest child takes charge, parents put the burden of setting the example, leadership, discipline to the other siblings, mostly prefect in all their ways because they are the oldest. Provided and established it develops a psychological superiority complex with the oldest child. The middle child is always mentally and physically proving to the parents and the oldest sibling that he or she is effective and the same attention should be given. The inferiority complex to the middle child is proving their position in everything that they try to …show more content…
As a Mom, your job is to encourage your child to take responsibility for her behavior and teach her to respect herself and others. When she speaks disrespectfully to you, if you have already laid the groundwork with her, she knows you will enforce the consequences. In this way, she learns to take responsibility for her behavior, and she will become a child, who, according to Adlerian theory, will feel encouraged about herself and will behave in helpful and cooperative ways. Natural and logical consequences are techniques which allow the child to experience the actual result of his own behavior. Natural consequences are the direct result of the child's behavior. Logical consequences are established by the parents, and are a direct and logical--not arbitrarily imposed -- consequence of the transgression. Natural consequences are usually effective. Logical consequences can only be applied if there is no power contest; otherwise they degenerate into punitive retaliation. According to Adler, when we feel encouraged, we feel capable and appreciated and will generally act in a connected and cooperative way. When we are discouraged, we may act in unhealthy ways by competing, withdrawing, or giving up. It is in finding ways of expressing and accepting encouragement, respect, and social interest that help us feel fulfilled and optimistic. Adlerian theory and practice have proven especially productive as applied to the growth and development of children. Adlerians believe that "a misbehaving child is a discouraged child" and that helping children to feel valued, significant, and competent is often the most effective strategy in coping with difficult child behaviors. Adlerian Psychology focuses on people's efforts to compensate for their self-perceived inferiority to others. These feelings of inferiority may derive from one's position in the family