What is the ultimate goal in life? Is it to be independent? If you had asked me this question a couple of years ago, I would have answered yes. Growing up as the middle child, I am paid the least attention to because I am not the oldest nor am I the youngest; I float between the two. It has made me become accustomed to doing everything on my own. I was expected to figure things out for myself. Any situation I ran into, I overcame through my own will power. I never thought to lean on others for support, let alone ask for anyone’s advice. Little did I know that the more independent I became, the bigger my real problem got. I had not realized that my lack of dependence was my real trouble. I thought I was growing up fast, but looking back now I am aware of how this problem stunted my growth towards maturity. I can remember how I would create an excuse for all of my actions. In my mind, anything I did was supported with a fair reason. I always felt that since there was reason for my action, my action was justified. What I did not understand was that there are different ways to approach a subject, and all are equally important to weigh out. I simply thought that I could react to a circumstance and explain how I was just after the fact. …show more content…
I wanted others to help define me by allowing them to impact me. For this to occur, I needed to listen to other people’s perspective. I began to act less closed off and was more willing to broaden my horizons. I realized that rather than trying to make a difference, I needed to be the difference. By altering my perspective, I have successfully gone from being self-actualized to interdependent. I am now the middle child that feels supported by my family, as well as my friends. Their guidance has enabled me to grow into a fully responsible young woman. When hardship comes knocking on my door, I am able to brush it off because I have my loved ones to back me