Comparing Men And Women In Deep Down Dark By Hector Tobar

Men, Women and their Language
All friendships are different. There is a large range of different types of friendships for both men and women. Women most often solve their problems on their own by talking about them. Meanwhile, men tend to use logic and reason to communicate and relate. While woman’s friendships are difficult, men’s friendships are simpler and less intense.
The men in Deep Down Dark by Hector Tobar possibly experienced the most difficult time in their lives but learned to maintain themselves and put in place a strategy that lead them to their survival. They’re composure did not change and they managed to all get along, something women would have struggled to do.
In “Sex, Lies and Conversation” the author explains how “bonds between boys are less intense” (para 11). Several events and conversations in Deep Down Dark prove Tannen’s statements to be true. “‘What kind of huevon are you’ He asks. “We’re going to climb up to 400 just to die there?” And then he bursts out laughing’” (para 2). This example illustrates very well how boys tend to often realize that an argument is not worth fighting over while women hold grudges over insignificant issues.

Meanwhile, women tend to keep their anger bottled up and do not speak about it causing this to make their friendship part ways while trying to crush each other’s lives.
Women inform each other details about one’s lives and others lives. They also cry together, share secrets and talk about their feelings promoting closeness. While men go to soccer games, talk about current affairs and help fix each other’s vehicles. Men often have their own quieter ways to show their