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Deborah Tannen Can T We Talk Analysis

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The article, “Can’t We Talk?”, “Teacher’s Classroom Strategies Should Recognize that Men and Women Use Language Differently”, “Sex, Lies and Conversation; Why is it so Hard for men and women to talk to Each Other?” by Deborah Tannen focus on the gender issues that take place when men and women interact with each other. Also other factors like their mindset of how women and a men think about how a conversation should take place. Firstly, Tannen states that “Many women bond by talking about troubles, and many men bond by exchanging playful insults and put-downs, and other sorts of verbal sparring”. This explains that as both genders grow up from childhood to their adulthood, they go through a great change. In my culture, Even if one of the genders did spent most of their time with the opposite gender, they will still go through a substantial change and will start to build a distance between each other. Especially after puberty, both genders tend to do go through a different path and may not even like it if they tried to go back to their previous way of interaction. Consequently, it also depends on …show more content…

This is a negative standpoint because Tannen also mentioned that in marriage the greatest fear is being pushed away, this explains that if the husband doesn’t decide to prefer to share his opinion or doesn’t like to bring up the conversation then their chemistry would be greatly weakened and would ultimately lead to being pushed away. Also, “For women, talk creates intimacy” (Tannen). This means that men are frequently expected to bring up the conversation most of the time instead of not saying anything, leading to build a wall of silence between them. If the husband brings up the conversation first then their wife would feel more comfortable and would start to reflect back by going with the flow of the

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