Looks pretty calm right? These confidence exercises will leave you feeling anything but calm when you are doing them. But in the long run, they will be life changing. What is confidence? I mean, really. What does it look like, sound like, feel like? Actually, we all can answer these questions (Which kind of makes that an obsolete first sentence!), but the answer you give will be slightly different compared to every other person who reads this. Some people will immediately think of a calm but relaxed businessman in a board meeting. Some people will think of Usain Bolt’s pulling poses in front of an army of cameras. Some will think of Sean Connery’s James Bond staring into the eyes of a beautiful women with his trademark sly grin. Everyone …show more content…
He also likes wine more than beer – something I will never understand. You only need to work on your confidence for situations that scare you. The situations that don’t scare you, you don’t need to work on your confidence. You may need to know how to project your confidence better – because at its heart confidence is made up of the inner feeling, and the outer expression. This article deals mostly with the inner feeling, which is the more important of the two, as mastering this will naturally lead to great outer expression. Now we are going to become relaxed in the situations that scare us, and install the belief that everything is going to go our way. We’re going to do this by the theory of consistent baby steps, or as it is more rightly called, progressive desensitisation. Choose a fear you have, for example, a fear of spiders. Write down what would terrify you mostthat involves spiders. Say for example, having a spider crawling across your face might be the scariest thing you can imagine. Write down the scariest thing for your particular fear at the top of a piece of paper. Now down the page, write a list of situations involving your fear that would progressively be less and less scary until you get to something that would be really pretty easy for you to do. Try to come up with at least 10 steps. This list will be different for everybody with each specific fear, but that’s fine. Here an example in full, still using