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Dating And Marriage In Utne Reader's 'Family Matters'

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One’s parents and grandparents have all grown up in a generation that is much different from today's era of youth. In their time a matter such as dating and marriage must have had many different viewpoints. Yet youth today look at this topic as something that is not so serious, and from their understanding the way dating and marriage is looked at now is much different from their parent’s. One’s parents and grandparents all had opinions about dating and marriage that differ to this generation, and much like Aslam Adullah interviewed in the article Utne Reader’s “Family Matters”, parents like him have to accept the fact that their children will grow up to believe and follow the different perspectives they have. However these new beliefs that …show more content…

All parents once followed their own rules of dating and marriage based on their culture. Nevertheless, once these parents have immigrated they soon adapt to modern day civilization and much like Aslam Aduhm, they will have to understand that “we live in a modern times, so I can not force this sort of decision on my children” (Family Matters 185). (MOP-Literary Reference). These children will soon grow up, see their friends start dating eventually get married, and so they too most likely will want to do the same. Although these children will be brought up in a new era, sooner or later they will learn their cultural traditions of marriage, what their parents expect of them once they grow up and start the stages of developing feelings and enter the world of dating. (RD-Parallelism) Most children however, most likely will go behind their parents back and become the sneaky children of strict parents. (MOP-Statement of Author’s Opinion). One of the hardest things for children of immigrant parents will be the time of when marriage will be a question, and they will have to come out to their parents of whether their traditions will be followed, or not. The fear of being disowned and being a disappointment will pass their minds, but like Aslam Aduhm parents should realize “children will make up their own minds, and hopefully they will allow us, their family, to …show more content…

With the world evolving more and more each day, people have grown to accept that people can date however many people they want without any labels named after them. In the olden days, being with multiple people was considered to be unacceptable standard, but again, being yourself nowadays has become more respectable than following society’s laws. Youth also do what they are comfortable doing, unlike in the old generation where people date at an older age but get married at a younger age. Kids these days are dating early, taking time to think about marriage, choosing who they want to date, and saying “yes” or “no” to whoever they want to marry. A very rare occurrence as the old generation started to date in their early adult ages of 16 to 18. Yet the freedom that is granted to youth is most times misused, and it is that freedom that results with issues arising with dating.(RD-Repetition) More and more people are cheating, turning their relationship into something other than just true affection. This is where the generational divide comes into place, drawing a fine line (FOS-Metaphor) between true love and affection in a relationship, and now making a chance love and marriage a needle in a haystack.(FOS- Metaphor) The difference of dating and marriage now have changed with the different times resulting in making things more complicated than it was

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