Madonna Whore Dichotomy

For a long time, the focus of sexual pleasure has been solely men. The recent sexually liberating stance has brought vibrators and sex toys to be purchased at mainstream drugstores, however, the fact remains women are still fighting for equality. Open discussion on women’s sexual pleasures have many reasons it remains rare. For example, the Madonna/whore dichotomy where women are expected to shine as pure and chase while remaining eager to please a man. This juxtaposition of the Madonna and the whore demonstrates how the sexual being only is to emerge in secret with a man. The Madonna/whore dichotomy does not allow women to embrace their sexuality, but rather be ashamed of it. The clear difference is when investigating the reactions and response

This oppression leads to not being able to embrace their own sexuality and sexual desires. In an episode in Sex and the City, after frustration with men the girls decide to buy a pink vibrator. The episode demonstrates a negative connotation, although, a women’s sexuality is more openly addressed here. During lunch, the close friends still act with a sort of taboo on the topic of vibrators. Charlotte while in yoga with Carrie discusses her fears (of many women also) that she may not enjoy sex with a man ever again after using a vibrator. This issue is pinpointed in the dialogue on how women’s pleasure remains rare but the sole focus is the man’s pleasure and ability to orgasm while the women does not orgasm. She describes to Carrie how sex with a man feels good, but not quite as pleasurable with the vibrator. Charlotte is depicted a nympho who has developed uncontrollable sexual tendencies towards her vibrator. The vibrator in this episode is regarded as a replacement for men which is not. A vibrator is linked with positive sexual functions such as desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, pain and overall function and more likely to have a gynecological exam