Shokran for updating us on your situation with your mother-in-law. It sounds as if she is continuing to overstep boundaries and has not calmed down with her insensitive remarks. The comment about the medication being being methadone is certainly a strange way to try to be humorous. I think at that point sister I would have also been shocked and ask her why would she say that. Often times people have strange senses of humor, depending on the lives they have lived, experiences they went through and how they were raised as well. For example, if one grew up with a neighbor or family member who took methadone it sadly might become a joke once the person is clean. While it is not funny at all and is in fact very harmful and hurtful, people …show more content…
I would at that point sister question her motives for saying that. I mean, why would she pick methadone? Why not joke and say a gummy bear or vitamin or something else? But no, she chose methadone and for her own personal reasons. I would wonder if she had a methadone problem somewhere in her past or someone she may have loved had an issue with drugs. I don 't know. But I do know people say and chose certain words either consciously or subconsciously because it pertains to them, and yes it is often subliminal as in a joking …show more content…
The comment was clearly not normal. Ask your husband to speak with his mother, or perhaps you both can together and ask her if there is something bothering her. You can also point blank ask her why did she chose the word methadone. While the comment in itself is not haram, it is indeed bizarre. I would also kindly suggest sister that you and your husband sit down with your mother in law and talk to her about Islam, our beliefs, values and principles if you have not yet. Perhaps with more information on our way of life, she will become more sensitive concerning her reactions and her speech. Also, at this point, I would also kindly suggest sister that you and your husband sit down and talk about what your boundaries are in your home, what should be permitted and what will not be