Summary Of Strophe 22

Making changes are the focus of part 11. Now that P1 understands the anchored feeling is real and valid, he stresses that he needs to do something about it. Strophe 22 focuses on his wife not changing. His attempts to influence her to change herself did not make a difference. He wanted her to change herself but he could not make it happen. He concludes that she would not do anything to change and resolve frustration. He then (in strophe 23) shifts his focus to himself doing something about the situation. In other words, the agent of change changes from her to him. He recognizes that this shaft (or “move”) is important for him in reaching the next step.P1 stops himself in the mid-way and change the course of the sentence in the last line of

P1 continues to narrate dominantly from his point of view. This part focuses on responsibility. He stresses that not only he hold himself to a high standard but also responsible for his choices and actions. Therefore, for P1, learning the reason for something is not working or “unable to get something done” is crucial. It is so that he would be able to “do something” about the situation. He arrives at the conclusion that he can control him but not what is “outside of him”. P1 indicates that this is a new insight for him. Following this insight, he examines his town problem solving method. He notices that pragmatic and methodical way of solving a problem with a person has not worked in his favor. He recognizes that “everybody has a different picture on their head and everybody has different expectation for what’s supposed to be.” It appears that he starts to become aware of his failure to recognize different ideas and standards others might have.

Part 20 focuses once again on P1’s marriage. His desires become clearer in this part. He notices that he does not want to gamble his desires and life for a chance of being “happy”, and wants to fulfill his desires/goals in life. He recognizes impacts of his wife’s feeling towards her own family. Her hatred towards her own family negates one of his goals in life. He states: “None of the stuff mattered”. In other words, his goal does not matter to her; therefore in the marriage. To be with her it means that he has to abandon his