The Interactions Between The Parties Andrea And Hector From An Outsider Perspective

Communication Problems
After examining the interactions between the parties Andrea and Hector from an outsider perspective one is able to identify not only where the miscommunication occurred but the intentions of each member as well. Immediately it is disclosed that Andreas intentions for joining this dating site are to find the “real thing.” Andrea, a female in her late 20’s, is open and honest about why she has chosen to become a member of the site; by outrightly stating that she is looking for a serious relationship she feels that those who contact her are seeking to find the same type of connection. Alternatively, Hector, a male in his mid 30’s visiting family from another country, has created an account with the intent to find something

Examining the ages of each Andrea gives some insight into why she acted as she did; it is a typical societal standard that women by their late 20’s, around Andrea’s age, should be in serious relationships if not already married with children. There is a patriarchal expectation held against women that if they have reached a certain age and still find themselves single they will have more and more issues finding true love, therefore as women grow older there is pressure felt to find the right one and settle down. Keeping this ideology in mind, when examining how Andrea acted towards Hector you can see how this pressure by society comes into play. She joins the dating site with serious intentions of finding love due to negative experiences outside of the online dating world, and although there are pre-existing drawbacks with Hector such as distance, she is resilient in her hopes that they can create a relationship built to withstand the distance. Had Andrea not been in her late 20’s, perhaps she would have treated Hector with a more casual manner, as she felt she had more time to explore options and that the connection she felt with Hector could be found again. This experience that came with age has made Andrea aware of how rare these connections are, consequently making her more ambitious to pursue