Theme Of Forgiveness In The Secret Life Of Bees

Forgiveness is defined as the intentional and voluntary process by which a victim undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding an offense. Additionally, the victims release themselves from any negative emotion such as vengefulness, with an increased ability to wish the offender away. Lily, the protagonist, in The Secret Life of Bees, by Sue Monk Kidd, undergoes a change from feeling angry about the circumstances surrounding her mother’s death, to feeling forgiveness for all the hurt along way. In this bildungsroman, Lily narrates herself as a courageous and intelligent girl with many insecurities as well as prejudices. Furthermore, Lily has much animosity towards herself. She states, “She was all I wanted. And I took her away” (Kidd 8). Additionally, “The day she died was December 3, 1954” (Kidd 5). As a child Lily involuntarily discharged a gun, causing the death of her mother (Deborah Fontanel). This event would thusly cause the theme of forgiveness to recur multiple times throughout the

Lily then consequently comes to find that the tables are turned and that her mother is the one who is in need of forgiveness. She shows her struggle by saying, “people in general would rather die than forgive” (Kidd 277). Capriciously, she contemplates the situation thinking for one moment “it is over and done,” but in the next she “would be picturing her in the pink house, or out by the wailing wall” (Kidd 278). Ultimately, after her entire debacle, with thrown honey jars as well as many headaches, Lily comes to learn that “you have to find a mother inside yourself” (Kidd 288). This idea sets Lily at ease giving her the knowledge that everything is going to be peaceful from this moment on and that she can take the time to learn to forgive others, just as she has to learn to forgive