Being born into a patriarchal society as a female means that every woman already has their role decided for the before they can even decide for themselves. In a society that views women as objects that are either domesticated or sexualized, it pits women against each other, forcing them to choose which category they would rather be placed in. This idea is illustrated in short story, Where Are You Going, Where Have You Been? by Joyce Carol Oates, where even adolescents aren’t safe from becoming sexualized. By analyzing the relationships Connie has with the individuals in her family and how those bonds shape her values and affect her growth and development as a character, audiences are able to identify the detrimental effects harmful ideas such …show more content…
The beginning of the story illustrates Connie as a shallow and vapid young teen, placing an immense amount of value on her looks and ability to attract the attention of those around her. Near the end of the story, during her encounter with Arnold Friend and his companion, Ellie Oscar, the author expresses Connie’s nervousness by describing that, “her heart was almost too big now for her chest and its pumping made sweat break out all over her” (Oates). Connie is no longer comfortable with the attention and realizes that the looks that she once valued so greatly, likely brought danger to both herself and those around her. The dichotomy between Connie in the beginning of the short story and Connie near the end of the story is subtly foreshadowed when it mentions that, “ everything about her had two sides to it, one for home and one for anywhere that was not home” (Oates). By the end of the short story, the audience is able to identify the two new sides of Connie. The first one that cherished her own visual appearance and disregarded consequences and the second one that actually weighed out the results of the choices she made/will