Why Did Sun-Li Discontinue Her Counseling Relationship With Marsha?

Case Scenario #2 – Sun – Li
Why did Sun-Li discontinue her counseling relationship with Marsha? Sun-Li discontinued her counseling relationship with Marsha because she more than likely felt pre judged and pressured. Marsha did not understand Sun-Li’s reason for coming to counseling. Instead of working with Sun-Li to explore why she agreed to come to counseling in the first place and what she was hoping to gain from her being there, Marsha assumed that she knew exactly what Sun-Li’s problems were and what she could do to”fix” them. Marsha did not provide a space for Sun-Li to discuss the loyalty she has to her family and the possible concerns or conflicts she has/had in regards to her attending counseling sessions and how it may impact her

She may have felt that her counselor “just did not get it.” Sun-Li did not feel understood or respected. Her counselor was able to get her to clarify her issues and then decided what was best for the her. I believe the counselor also was excited to use her “new theory” that this became more important to her rather than listening to her client and appropriately using her counseling skills to work with her client to assist in her in encouraging her to confront her own values in comparison to the values of her family and promote her own decision making taking her most principal values into account. I wonder if the only reason that Sun-Li came to see a counselor was because her professor suggested she go. Perhaps, she felt pressure before she even went to counseling. Perhaps, the client did not agree with the course of action and thought it’d be better to not attend anymore than to have object to the counselors ways of handling things and be subjected to the counselor's response. I also wonder what Sun-Li’s previous experiences with or perceptions of counseling has

I would leave room for her to tell me more about that. I would have used the sessions in the beginning to solidify a therapeutic relationship and environment, reflecting feeling and meaning to ensure that she felt heard and understood. I also would have spent a great deal listening to her so that I had the chance to gather more information about my client and her worldview. I would have worked with to established clear goals for our counseling sessions. If I felt it was appropriate, I would have offered to provide a safe space for her to meet with her family in my office, if she expressed wanting to find ways to explain to her family her feelings. I would focus the sessions around finding out, “What does Sun-Li want?” or “What would be the best outcome for Sun-Li, in her ideal