The course readings have helped me better understand why I have resisted and not learned Bengali. Kohl (1994) talks about his experiences of not learning Yiddish, which similarly relates to my situation. Kohl (1994) argues that he did not want to learn Yiddish primarily because of his mother. Kohl (1994) talks about how his mother could not speak Yiddish and was not included in the conversations at their family parties (p.3). I also believe I resist learning Bengali because I know that my family and friends cannot speak it. In other words, if I learn Bengali my boyfriend and his family will always speak to me in it, while leaving out my family and friends.