6.6 million people in the United States are stalked each year, one in six women and one in nineteen men have experienced stalking victimization during their lives at some point. In the story “Where Are You Going Where Have You Been” by Joyce Carol Oates the main character, Connie, becomes a victim herself. Throughout the story, there are two main conflicts that arise for her, one of them having an extreme impact on her and the people around her. The first conflict Connie experiences is one between her and herself, which could’ve been brought on by her mother's attitude and behavior towards her. Connie is in a constant battle with her mother about the way she looks and how she behaves, often comparing Connie to her older sister. Her mother, once like Connie, realizes she is no longer the beauty she once was and takes it out on her daughter. Connie has a “highly charged relationship with her mother” which shows the reader “both her mother's attempt to control and protect her youngest daughter, and her feelings that Connie is developing into a younger version of herself” (Caldwell). Due to this continuous judgment towards Connie from her mother, Connie …show more content…
The man's’ name is Arthur Friend, his age isn’t said in the story but from his description, he’s much older than Connie. Arthur shows up to Connie’s house, knowing she’s home alone, harassing her to come out so they can take a drive. However, Connie rejects his offer continuously to which Arthur doesn’t take well and ends up threatening to kill her family if she doesn’t cooperate. Somehow Arthur knows Connie is home alone, as well as the whereabouts of her parents, and what they’re doing at that exact moment, all without Connie revealing any of this information to him. Due to his “uncanny knowledge of his victim,” Arthur can be a seen as “a devil, a satyr, and a psychic projection” (Ellis