Child Abuse: The Case Of Faliana Lee

Abuse can be very hurtful and it is even worse when the victim starts to feel like it is their fault that they are abused. It is very common for the abuser to blame the victim, and the victim will start to believe that it really is their fault. They might say that the only reason that they acted that way was because of something you said or did, and that if you had not done that than they would not have abused you, whether it be sexual, physical, or emotional. They might make you feel like you are the one that instigates and starts all the arguments, or bring on the sexual abuse by your behavior or clothes. It makes it even worse because many times abuse takes place when nobody else is around, so nobody is able to say that the abuse is not

She was in her relationship for 18 years, and the abuse did not start until about 6 months after they got married (Davey, 2010). It started with him just doing small controlling things, like not letting her got to the bathroom during long car rides (Davey, 2010). It then escalated into him lashing out at her randomly, and then even more into physical abuse (Davey, 2010). He would abuse her in front of her children and family, and she lost all her friends and family support (Davey, 2010). She was so stressed and depressed that she lost her job (Davey, 2010). Faliana and her husband would go to counseling, but right before the counselling, he would get her all worked up and hysterical so that he could seem like the calm one and she would seem like the crazy one, and the counselor would side with him every time (Davey, 2010). Finally, after awhile she got out of the abusive relationship when she realized that her life was really in danger (Davey, 2010). She kept trying to change herself to make her relationship work and she said, “We want to make amends for the relationship to move forward, but the fact is, we are never moving forward. I don’t know how many times I tried to change myself to make things work. I was in a loop, and it was never ending, and eventually you lose a sense of your own identity. So when I left the relationship, I couldn’t even cry. I found grieving very

Often times when a child is abused by their parents or someone else, they grow up to be an abuser. They grow up with it, so they do not know any different. Sometimes they feel as if they have been out of control and abused so much, so becoming the abuser makes them feel as if they have gained some control back (Dasarband, 2017). Other times someone might be abusive if they have an issue such as anger management, intermittent explosive disorder, or bipolar disorder (Dasarband, 2017). Even when someone has a drinking or drug problem they could lash out when they are under the influence (Dasarband, 2017). There are many reasons why someone might abuse, but it is no