Effects Of Divorce On Children

Divorce is such a tragic experience in life. Having a divorce with children has many

effects on the children. Children who go through divorce, usually see their parents

fighting and arguing. Children can be affected mentally and cause them to have insecurities

in life that may ruin their chances in life at great opportunities that they missed because of

the insecurities gained from the divorced. Children who are affected in the divorce usually

end up failing classes and make school their least priority that can cause dropouts.

Children who are affected by the divorce tend to have many mental issues

that affect life everyday and can cause them to miss an opportunity that can

change their life positively. An article states that

Another article states that When parents separate, children worry who will take

care of them. They are afraid they too are “divorceable” and will be abandoned by one or

both of their parents. This problem is worsened by one or both parents taking the children

into their confidence, talking about the other parent in front of the children, using language

like "Daddy is divorcing us," being late for pick-up, or abducting the children. Children who

are feeling insecure will say things to a parent which is intended to evoke a mama

bear/papa bear response. If children do not have "permission" to have a good relationship

with the other parent, or if they think they need to "take care of" one of their parents in the

divorce, they are likely to end up having feelings of divided loyalties between their parents

or, in the extreme, they may become triangulated with one parent against the other parent.

Another report states that because of so much marital conflict may be related to the stress

of parenting, children often feel responsible for their parents' divorce--they feel

Children’s affected from the divorce are more likely to have a decrease in grades

and fail or even dropout. In an article children of divorce suffered from depression, failed in

school, and got in trouble with the law. Children of divorce seem to give up in life which

includes school and they don’t feel school is necessary to them. Studies showed boys had

greater social and academic adjustment problems than girls. They may get into trouble in

school, fight more with peers and parents. Another article says children exposed to divorce

are twice as likely to repeat a grade and five times likelier to be expelled or suspended

from school.Divorced students were more likely to abuse drugs, to commit violent acts, to

take their own life and to bear children out of wedlock. School personnel have their hands

full trying to deal with the psychological and social issues of divorce in the classroom. In

Judith Wallerstein's study of the effects of divorce on children, of the middle class sample,

13% of the children had dropped out of school all together. These studies have shown that

children whose parents are divorced are more likely to fail school and