Speech On Dating Abuse

PART ONE:

1.1

Abuse is cruel and violent treatment of a person or an animal especially regularly or repeatedly. It is an act to control the behaviour of another person using their trust and emotions against them to make the victim vulnerable. To sum it up abuse is horrible treatment of a person that scars them eternally mentally and physically.

1.2.

Dating abuse is a pattern of controlling and offensive behaviours that one person uses against another to gain or maintain power and control in a relationship. Can involve physical, sexual, emotional and verbal abuse. Abusers control victims by isolating them from family and friends. In conclusion dating abuse is when a partner uses your emotions against you to satisfy themselves and control you

Social media gives abusers another way to control and degrade their partners. Social media also makes it easy to stalk partners, force them to send sexually explicit pictures and abusers demand their partners to give them their passwords for every social media account they have. An increase of cellular devices and social media websites is that people can create fake profiles (catfish) on dating sites fooling you into believing they are the best person on the face of this earth meanwhile they are abusive. The use of cell phones makes someone more of an introvert therefore it is hard for them to communicate. Finding your individuality is not a priority anymore with an increase of cellular phones and social media websites therefore not knowing yourself could lead to knowing the type of person you would like to be in relation with, therefore you are more likely to be fooled by kind remarks and excuses towards dating abuse. In my experience I’ve noticed that people seem as if they know you on social media and they are controlling. They start to tell you things that should be coming from people that know you. They tell you they are, “Disappointed in the person you are becoming.” As if they have that role in your life to tell you

It is easier to control their partner when they have no one to turn to for guidance or someone that might plant a seed of abuse in the victims’ head.

• Possessiveness

• Controlling e.g. what to wear

• Refuses to let you end the relationship

• Partner turns to violence mostly

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1.8.

• First you realise and accept you are in an abusive relationship. Make the decision to leave, even though it might take a while.

• Reach out for help. Whether it be close friends and family or a counsellor.

• How did you get to this dysfunctional relationship? A question you should get the answer to. Resolve the underlying issue.

• Make a plan to escape. Make sure you have a home when you leave and support.

• Cut the abuser out of your life and move on and regain your worth.

1.9.

TEARS:

Physical Address:

Tears Foundation

TSEBO

85 Protea Road

Kingsley Office Park

Block C

Chislehurston

Sandton

Email: [e-mail]

Telephone: [phone]

POWA: Postal address: PO box 93416, Yeoville 2143 Johannesburg Telephone: [phone] Email: [e-mail]

Part two:

11 island street

Southdowns estate

Albertsdale

1449

22 march