Family Of Origin: My Family Is An African American Family

Family of Origin: My family is an African American family. My family consists of my mother, who is forty-eight years old, and my father, who is sixty-five years old. My mother and father have been married for twenty-three years and dating for thirty. I have three sisters and two brothers. My sister is thirty-eight, thirty-one, and twenty-seven years old. My brother is thirty-seven and thirty-one years old. We are a blended family but were raise together in one house. I also have four nephews and seven nieces. They ages are from twenty-two to a newborn baby. My mother and father did not receive their high school diploma and are consider a low-income family. My siblings only graduated from high school and have taken on job instead of furthering

Each family member will have a chance to state how they are feeling even if the others do not agree with them. I think family communication is extremely important so that it will cut done on a lot of arguing among the family. We will use different types of communication skills, such as the talking stick to make sure that everyone is being heard and no one is yelling over each other. Another communication skill is validation. According to Ahamann and Harvey “One particularly useful skill is "validation,"" which means accepting what the family member says or does as a valid expression of thoughts and feelings in that particular circumstance at that particular time”. I think this will be a good idea to use when the children turn about 5 years old. So that they understand that it does not mean that we agree with them but we are accepting how they feel about the situation. The family system theory also fit into this parenting practice. As stated in the book, “communication styles relate strongly to the nature of relationships within a family system” (57). We will more likely use the verbal communications so that we will not misinterpret anything that someone says but we will still pay attention to the nonverbal

Family is and will always be there for you. Growing up I want my kids to know that they can come to me for anything. I want them to understand that you do not put anyone before your family. According to Brian Moore Article (2015), “Family is not an important thing, it is everything”(17), which he quoted Michael Fox. Family should always be the most important thing in a person life, well next to God. If I am not able to help my children, I want them to know that they can go to their other family members and get the help that they need. The systemic family development theory fit into this parenting style. As stated in the book, The family systems approach clarifies that families are systems and it is possible that four generation could be interacting at any given time” (63). My family will be a family system because I will make sure that not only that they are close to our immediate family but to the older generations and the younger generation in the family. According to Brian Moore (2015), “We will all change positions and possibly even careers during our working life, but what never changes is who we are and who our family is”(19). The children will understand no matter what we do or where we end up in life, that family will never change and will always be