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"Why does the way in which a man treat me feel directly related to my sex and not my person?" is a question that I always ask myself. Living in New York City has made it all the more clear that men are just looking for casual sex and ambiguous relations despite my constant reiteration that I 'm not looking for friends with benefits or just sex. When did it become the norm to expect sex on the first or second date, and then to hastily slip away post-coital? Yet, not before promising to text me back or asking me to hang out a second time, and then to never hear from you again. I have so many qualms with today 's dating culture, markedly how dating has become so casual that it is the equivalent to just "hanging out." It 's informality making it all the more complex, and even unnecessarily taxing. …show more content…

All I ask is that you, whoever you are, now or in the future, give me the respect I deserve, and to lend your ears to my voice like so many women have to yours. I 'd like to hear other people 's experiences, questions, and sex-positive advice on the subject of casual dating, and how better to remedy this problem that we face in navigating hookup culture. Any thoughts on the practice of "ghosting" or on the notion that hookup culture is endorsed by a patriarchal system would be much appreciated as well.

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