In Defense Of Single Mothers

Being a single mother is not an easy job to do. Although there are some women out there who have chosen to do so, raising children on her own is not every single mother’s dream come true. Unfortunately, sometimes life doesn’t turn out the way we planned or circumstances beyond our control change our lives forever. It may not be the ideal situation to raise a child in a single parent household for most people, however, we should not pass judgement on one’s family dynamics because it does not replicate the “norm”. We should be willing to help these families to be successful because these children are our future. Much like the title explains, in the article “In Defense of Single Mothers”, Katie Roiphe talks about the misconception that all

But whether you are in a single-family home or a two-parent home there is no family structure that will ensure your children are raised to be well rounded people. There are no guarantees that your children will not suffer from hardships and end up lost just because a single mother raises them. What matters the most is how much time and effort the parent puts into raising that child. If a parent is involved, whether it’s one parent or both, children are going to be raise believing they can be whoever they want to be. They will have the love and support they need to be successful. As a society we should spend more time helping those single mothers in need instead of worrying about what is going on in their house and talking about what could possibly go wrong. In her article Riophe clearly

It was not how I had planned for things to happen for us but there was not turning back now. At the time, I was a stay at home mother with no income. I had to look for work and adequate, affordable daycare for my children. The cost of daycare alone was more than what my paycheck was, so it felt as though I was working just to have my kids in daycare which completely defeated the purpose of working. I found that there were not very many programs or resources available to single working mothers. I looked for helped from government assistance but because I was working what they had to offer was not worth all the time off work for countless appointments and tons of paperwork you had to fill out. All I wanted was enough to feed my kids but the workers at the office treated me and monitored me as if I were a criminal on parole. In order for me to get government assistance I had to cooperate with the Attorney General and if I didn’t I would be penalized with a reduction in my monthly assistance. Yet the Attorney General was doing absolutely nothing to help me. All I would get was “we could not find the non-custodial parent”, yet I provided an address where he lived and has lived for