It Ends With Us Quotes

Abuse. Abuse is a shapeshifter. It plays tricks on the victim, mocks them, and makes them feel crazy. It affects the way people look at them, because of the decisions they make from it. In Colleen Hoover’s novel, It Ends With Us, the protagonist Lily Bloom is raised by her abusive father. This traumatic experience deeply influences the way she perceives herself and the people around her. Through her journey into adulthood, we see the impact of childhood trauma pander on her adult relationships and personal growth.

As Lily is talking to Ryle she states, “I'm angry with my father for hitting my mother, and for making her think she deserved it. I’m angry with her for not standing up for both of us when we needed her most. I’m angry with myself

This quote encapsulates the influence Lily’s father’s violence had on her and how it shapes her perspective on relationships. The quote portrays Lily’s realization that the childhood trauma she faced has defined her character in adulthood. Additionally, as she is in a conversation with Ryle, Lily says, “Fight or Flight. That’s our natural instinctual defense when we sense danger. But when it comes to abuse of any kind, one or the other isn’t sufficient. You have to do both” (Hoover 387). This quote highlights the importance of being aware and prepared to take measures to protect oneself from abuse. It provides insights into the mindset that Lily has shaped and her approach to relationships in the

There’s no shame in saying I’m not the person I want to be. But there is shame in not facing who we really are” (Hoover 88). This quote shines a light on the importance of self-awareness– traits that Lily develops as she begins to confront her past traumas. Through her journey, we see how her father’s abusive behavior affects her perception of what love is supposed to look like, and how it influences her relationships with others. In addition, while she and Ryle are having a discussion, Lily mentioned to Ryle, “Just because someone hurts you doesn’t mean you can simply stop loving them. It's not a person’s actions that hurt the most. It’s the love. If there was no love attached to the action, the pain would be a little easier to bear” (Hoover 197). This quote speaks to the complex emotions that come with loving someone despite their harmful behavior. Lily’s father is the person who caused her the most pain, yet she still struggles with letting go of the love she has for him. This emotional complexity is a testament to the impact of childhood trauma on adult