Jing-Mei: Where She Stands Amy Tan tells us her story through Jing-Mei, a first generation Chinese American, who is trying to find her social standing, in Two Kinds. I think that through the clash of cultures within her household Jing-Mei comes to find she here place in life. She grows up to be “Americanized” since American cultural values are different to Chinese values she chooses to be more of an American child than a Chinese one. In Identities and Social Locations: Who Am I? Who Are My People? By Gwyn Kirk and Margo Okazawa-Rey, they tell us our social standing in based on three levels, Micro- who we think we are on a personal level, Meso, -who everyone around us think we are as a person and Macro- what society thinks we are as people. …show more content…
It is no secret that all parents want talented children, and some even go as far as to say that there is an unspoken competition between parents, especially in Asian families, of who can produce the best child. In America this is not really a concept. Parents are more free with their children and encourage them to do what they want to do, in a liberal way. Asian Parents tend to be more dictating in what their children do. Since Jing-Mei had grown up in America, she is more accustomed to the freedom that she has, and therefore resents that her mother is trying to run her life. “I won’t let her change me, I promised myself. I won’t be what I am not” (Tan, 1989) with this declaration she decided to change her mother’s view of her, and that of anyone else her mother. I think that this is the critical moment that she decided that she will be more of an American child then a Chinese one. Jing-Mei would passively defy her mother by answering her mother’s questions without enthusiasm. This slowly changed her mother’s perception of her, to a short tempered, lazy kid. On her mother’s part she worked even harder to make Jing-Mei realize her potential. Even making her do piano lessons to realize her
Throughout her childhood life her mother, Suyuan, was continuously pushing her to be her best. Jing-Mei purposely tried to fail at everything to prover to her mother that she could never become a great and famous person. Then after a piano recital that went horridly wrong, her and her mother had an argument and their relationship was never the same. Many years later Suyuan tried to give Jing-mei the piano that she had as a child. She refused the offer, but than a year later her mother died and Jing-Mei was cleaning out her mother’s house and decided to play the piano and she was surprised that she still knew how.
With the mother pushing her this much it makes her very strict. She doesn’t really give Jing a choice. This also made Jing feel like her mother didn’t like her the way she was. “’Why don’t you like me the way I am?’ I cried.
(Vanity Fair) Jing-mei’s mother is always bossing her around to make sure that she will have a good future. It is not just the children who have weights on their backs, it is also the parents. “It’s about giving your kids a better life-- as if parenting didn’t come with enough pressures already.” (Vanity Fair) Jing-mei’s mother has a lot of pressure on her because she does not want to be embarrassed by other parents who are better at parenting than she is. She is always trying to make sure her daughter is better than the other kids.
Especially Jing-Mei because she was having the harder time understanding her mother, until after Suyuan’s death. For example, when Jing-Mei is on her way to China, she starts to feel her DNA changing and recalls her mother saying she will unlock her Chinese-self some day. As Jing-Mei describes, “And I think, my mother was right. I am becoming Chinese” (Tan 304). This shows that Jing-Mei is beginning to come to an understanding with her mother.
She tried everything from a Chinese Shirley Temple to a piano prodigy. When she was becoming a “piano prodigy”, Jing Mei began taking lessons, she was taking lessons from Mr. Chong, who was a deaf man, so when Jing Mei went to her piano lessons, she played wrong notes and Mr. Chong did not notice. Months went by and her mother decided she should play in a talent show, and when the time came, Jing Mei ended up playing wrong notes during the talent show. Her mother was very disappointed, but a couple of days later, her mother came in and told her it was time for practice. Jing Mei refused and her mother ended up dragging her to the piano and Jing Mei began yelling at her.
At first Jing-Mei grew in her dreams and desirers to be perfect for her family; “In all of my imaginings
Jing-Mei was then shocked when she learns some history about her mother leaving behind two young daughters in China. Because of the incident, Jing-mei thought to take care of the situation even though she doesn’t understand the suffer of Suyuan. After the death of Jing-Mei's mother, she learns about the sufferings of her mother when she was in China from the women in the club and her father. This knowledge helps her to appreciate Suyuan for what she has done for her. However, it mainly teaches her to get used to her Chinese heritage like when she went to China to meet the twins when they have been found and she then share Suyuan’s story with them.
In The Joy Luck Club, written by Amy Tan, we are introduced to Suyuan and her daughter Jing-Mei “June” Woo. As with any relationship, there is conflict between Suyuan Woo and her daughter, as it seems that Jing-Mei doesn’t understand her mother’s Chinese culture and ambitions. In the Chinese culture, women are seen as inferior and often lack basic rights such as the right to marriage or financial holdings, thus deprived of their potential. This is why the rights in the U.S. are seen as privileges to Chinese women, among other minorities, and why Suyuan endeavored for her daughter to become a prodigy and excel in anything and everything. Yet as Jing-Mei was forced into this ideal, and the more her mother tried to enforce this idea, the further she begun to despise her mother for attempting to turn her into a “fraud”.
“For unlike my mother, I did not believe I could be anything I wanted to be, I could only be me.” (Tan 24). With this statement you can see that she does not agree with her mother. Jing-Mei’s Mother was raised in Chinese culture, therefore she is very strict and demanding to Jing-Mei to do what she wants. From doing a chore, to hobbies or even Jing-Mei’s passion.
This disagreement quickly became a source of resentment and anger for both of them, but Jing-Mei and her mother were unable to resolve this conflict because of their different backgrounds and experiences. The story showcases how relationships between mothers and daughters can be strained because of differences in culture and a lack of communication. One of the difficulties between Jing-Mei and her mother is their different cultural backgrounds, which is supported by two points from the story. Firstly, Jing-Mei and her mother both disagreed on the opportunities that existed in America. According to Singer, Amy Tan uses “two entirely
“After losing everything in China…She never looked back with regret. ”(Chunk 1 ¶3). Jing-Mei’s mother is a Chinese immigrant with the typical ‘everything is better in America’ mindset. Jing-Mei, being raised in America, had more of an American mindset. “You want me to be someone i’m not…I’ll never be the daughter you want me to be!”
This peculiarly specific list showed that as a first-generation American, she was constantly scrutinizing the small actions that her mother demonstrated, and she was embarrassed, although it is not likely anyone else ever noticed. However, as she got older, Jing-Mei realized the fact that she was “becoming Chinese.” She still did not truly understand her mother or the beauty of Chinese culture, but her acceptance was the first step of the long excursion of
She wants Jing Mei to be a prodigy but Jing Mei wants to be herself. They argue over what they want to do. For example is says on page 49, “... My mother thought I could be a Chinese Shirley Temple.” The mother thinks Jing Mei can do amazing things but she just gives up.
Jing did not feel as if she was Chinese, since she lived in California; she felt more American. Once the train entered China she felt as if she was becoming Chinese. “The minute our train leaves the Hong Kong border… And I think, my mother was right, I am becoming Chinese” (241). Jing is excited to visit her relatives there
Jing Mei, while portrayed as an obedient child, is only willing to listen to her mother to a certain extent. Throughout the story, it is consistently hinted that Jing Mei would eventually explode against her mother as an attempt to free herself from her mother’s chains. In addition, after the fiasco at the piano recital, she eventually derives further from her mother’s wishes as she “didn 't get straight A...didn 't become class president...didn 't get into Stanford...dropped out of college.” (54). On the flip side, Jing Mei’s mother is a stereotypical Chinese parent who is fully determined to ensure her daughter’s success in a new environment.