Chapter 2 - Our First Love and Our Love Language
Who was the first person that you fell in love with? We all have that very first love. It’s usually a son with his mother, and a daughter with her father. These are usually the first people of the opposite sex who make an impression on us. They usually are the people who show us what love is and teach us how we want to be loved by the opposite sex. But, if you were not raised by your parents or your parents didn 't demonstrate love to you, then how do you learn how to give and receive love?
The one thing that has been true throughout history is that when a person is looking for a partner most women and men look for someone similar to that first male figure or female figure that they fell
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In that first few minutes, it is very easy –if you really pay attention–to detect whether or not you speak the same “Love Language” as someone else. The problem is most of us don’t take the time to listen or observe. We may notice something that we don’t understand or that we dislike, but we will usually choose to overlook it; or we may feel that we can correct it somewhere down the line. All of this overlooking is because many times we allow our hormones or loneliness to get in the way and cloud our judgement. If more people had a better understanding about their own “Love Language,” and took the time to understand the “Love Language” that someone else spoke, they could save themselves a lot of headaches.
As we get older our “Love Language” becomes a combination of what we experience with our “Tribe” as well as our own relationship experiences. Every bit of who we are, our upbringing as well as our own personal relationship experiences shapes who we are and how we deal with other people.Through our relationship experiences we create our own personal “Love Language”. It’s important for each of us to know what our own “Love Language”