Synthesis Essay On Gender Roles

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My gender before I was born, as with most babies, was predetermined through pink balloons at my baby shower and the pink blanket I was wrapped in when I was born. Today gender has become one of the most important labels of your identity that you must accept. Although I don’t reject my given gender, I wonder how my identity would have been affected if I wasn’t forced to learn society's definition of female. As I grew up I was told that I needed to act “ladylike” when my brothers could dress and date around however they wanted. These double standards only became more apparent and strict as I grew up and matured. Gender roles are learnt through gender based parenting styles and can be ingrained by the time the child becomes an adult. Parenting …show more content…

However, when I was around 6 years old my parents divorced and I lived with my three brothers and my mom up until today. Although I grew up with my brothers in the house I was the youngest by about 10 years. So, as my mother raised brothers and me, being the only girl I noticed that my mother seemed to hold a double standard in the house between the boys and myself. One of the most memorable lessens I learned centered around my gender was that I must always look and act as a “Lady” would. This was taught through my trips with my mother to the nail salon from before I can remember, getting my ears pierced at 1 year old, always being encouraged to wear feminine colors such as pink or purple, among many other things. The point being that before the time I could walk my gender has been ingrained into my mind along with what it meant to be a woman. When I was young my mother fully encouraged me to delve into the “princess” fantasy and always discouraged things she didn’t deem acceptable for a growing little girl. So naturally I grew up dressed head to toe in pink with perfectly polished nails and a polite attitude. Then as I went through puberty and started to mature I began noticing the differences between the rules my mother followed for my brothers and me. I started to resist some of the “rules” my mother taught me to uphold and as I tried to justify why it was different from my